Loving a partner with Asperger’s can be both challenging and rewarding On my first date with Mike — we’ve been partners now for 24 years – he asked me “Are we on a date?” And the second date, he asked “Are we still dating? I thought it was so sweet [...]
IMAGO Therapy and the first two Stages of Love: Romantic Love and Power Struggle This video talks about my workshops on IMAGO Relationship Therapy. I describe the first two stages of love and what attracts us to a partner and what causes conflict. The next video will be the final [...]
The final stage of love: Real Love Here I talk about how couples make it to real love, love that is based on reality. I talk about the turtle and the hailstorm as well as how we are attractive to familiar love. It is no accident we are with the [...]
New Study: Younger Gay Men Trending Toward Monogamy Younger Gay Men Trending Toward Monogamy as reflected upon by Dr. Joe Kort A new study, Younger Gay Men’s Perspectives on Monogamy, Non-monogamy, and Marriage describes a significant shift toward monogamy among younger gay men (ages 18 – 39 years old). Of 576 [...]
Dealing with Post Trumpatic Stress Disorder What To Do When Someone You Love Voted For Trump These are trying, scary times for LGBTQ people. We are seeing increasing divisiveness. Every day on Facebook I see people blocking and unfriending each other, and I must admit I have done the same. [...]
The Misleading “Sexual Addiction” Label Wrong labels make for poor therapy For some years now a fight has been going on between those who ascribe to the notion that people struggling with “out of control” sexual behaviors should be labeled “sex addicts” (and treated under the same protocols as other [...]
Is sex addiction real? Depends on whom you ask - CNN.com "To me, 'sex addiction' is a cultural myth," said psychotherapist Joe Kort. "Thirty years ago, we didn't have a better way to describe people who worried that their sexual behavior was out of control, so it made sense to [...]
Op-ed: Anti-porn school program misrepresents science I am often asked about the science that exists in evidence that porn is not an addiction. Here is some information. Op-ed: Anti-porn school program misrepresents science | The Salt Lake Tribune | There is extensive evidence showing that the hypothesis that pornography use is [...]
Important Information National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality’s (NARTH), an antigay and reparative therapy organization started in 1992 by Joseph Nicolosi renamed their website and organization to distance themselves from the unethical use of therapy attempting to change someone from gay to straight. Their new website is therapeuticchoice.com, and [...]
FROM A SCIENTIFIC PERSPECTIVE, SEX ADDICTION IS NOT REAL. Problematic sexual behavior, on the other hand, is very real and consumers need to be protected from sex addiction therapists who are not adequately trained in human sexuality. Founded in 1967, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) [...]