Playing with Gender This article is about justification of how some men enjoy fetishizing and objectifying gender play gender play. It is not about being transexual or transgender. Many people who are trans find this offensive as they do not want to be fetishized or objectified. Occasionally a woman comes [...]
The Body is the Portal to Psychological Health I came to the type of therapy I now practice from having worked as a firefighter, an emergency medical technician, and then spent years in crisis and suicide-prevention work. Ultimately, these experiences enabled me to understand how the body and the brain [...]
Patriarchy, Relegion, and the Myth of "Real Sex" As a sex and relationship therapist, when I ask if my clients are having sex, a typical response will be something like: “No, not yet. I am waiting until I am serious with someone, and until then, I am only doing oral [...]
5 Reasons Not to Ghost Your Therapist Understandably, there are degrees of ghosting. We can imagine ghosting as existing along a spectrum, ranging from extreme acts of emotional erasure to more socially accepted forms of quiet withdrawal. We might place Kate Winslet’s character in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind at [...]
You Can Move Past Erectile Disappointment and Build a Healthy, Satisfying Sex Life My fellow sex therapists and I are seeing a growing number of teens and young men experiencing problems with erectile dysfunction (ED). We prefer to call it erectile disappointment because we believe this term better defines the [...]
Ten Things You Never Should Say to Your Partner In the heat of an argument, you spill out a few choice words you know will hurt your partner, but in that instant, you want him to feel the same pain you have experienced by his hurtful actions. It’s too late [...]
We're Going Our Separate Ways for the Holidays ... and Maybe More? Who are you visiting for the holidays? His parents? Your dad? Your mom and her husband? Your kids? The list is big and so is the stress that comes with it. As a therapist for the past 40 [...]
You Can Rekindle a Relationship, Even After 30 Years! I watch a television program on Netflix called Pose. There’s a line from the show that has resonated with me because it reminds me of my relationship with my mother: “Just because you were a terrible mother, doesn’t mean I can’t [...]
Losing Our Voice to the Algorithm The rise of Algospeak For many years, I’ve relied heavily and quite successfully on numerous social media outlets to share ideas and information as well as engage in dialogue with literally thousands of followers. I never expected that I would have to choose my [...]