Ten Things You Never Should Say to Your Partner In the heat of an argument, you spill out a few choice words you know will hurt your partner, but in that instant, you want him to feel the same pain you have experienced by his hurtful actions. It’s too late [...]
We're Going Our Separate Ways for the Holidays ... and Maybe More? Who are you visiting for the holidays? His parents? Your dad? Your mom and her husband? Your kids? The list is big and so is the stress that comes with it. As a therapist for the past 40 [...]
You Can Rekindle a Relationship, Even After 30 Years! I watch a television program on Netflix called Pose. There’s a line from the show that has resonated with me because it reminds me of my relationship with my mother: “Just because you were a terrible mother, doesn’t mean I can’t [...]
Losing Our Voice to the Algorithm The rise of Algospeak For many years, I’ve relied heavily and quite successfully on numerous social media outlets to share ideas and information as well as engage in dialogue with literally thousands of followers. I never expected that I would have to choose my [...]
The secret lives of men... What are they hiding, and why? Many women say if they knew men’s secrets, it could improve their relationship. They would gain a deeper understanding of who he really is and what is important to him.What if you discover your husband masturbates, and often?What about a deep [...]
You don't have to always agree; try validating instead I worked with a client who refused to ever agree with her father. She needed to win every argument, determined not only to prove him wrong, but also to show him how wise she was. Most of her life, she was [...]
LGBTQ progress in peril: the hidden toll of a backslide. The mental, physical and emotional costs are huge During Pride Month, I’d like to reflect on how we got to where we are today, and what the future may bring for the LGBTQ+ community. The photo in this article reflects [...]
Are you deliberately defying me? Experts say it may be PDA Are you finding that a family member regularly resists your demands, and often just ignores you? Do you feel it is deliberate? I’ve been dealing with what I thought was deliberate defiance behavior from my spouse of 32 years, [...]
Let’s talk about queer I still remember the childhood bullying, teasing and “queer” name calling I endured growing up. Queer was considered a negative slur against the LGB community. It’s 30 years later, I am 62 years old, and I still will not use that term to describe me. I [...]