Here’s how to kill a relationship in four easy steps Here’s how to kill a relationship in four easy steps “When you forbid a partner from doing something, you invite them to keep a secret.” - Ellyn Bader Most couples feel their relationship will last forever; they love each other [...]
Recovering from Sex Addiction Treatment Recovering from Sex Addiction Treatment So, you have been through so called treatment of “sex addiction” and now you realize not only didn’t it work, it left you feeling worse about your sexual self and your relationship. Regular readers of my books or blogs may know [...]
Happy Holidays: is this a misnomer? Happy Holidays: is this a misnomer? Of course, all therapists understand that our experiences at home growing up shape nearly everything about our future. In the first therapy sessions, I usually ask for information about my client's childhood experiences and the family members involved. [...]
In more than 25 years of practice, I've heard hundreds of stories of how pornography use can damage people's sex lives profoundly and ruin their marriages. I've personally had many couples describe the shame and secretiveness of one partner's involvement with porn. Time and again, I've treated people for whom viewing porn has become a compulsion [...]
Consensual Non-Monogamy: What Is This New Label? Consensual Non-Monogamy During a recent podcast, I interviewed David Singer, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a poly- and kink-aware professional who practices in Los Angeles, California. He specializes in working with people practicing or exploring consensual non-monogamy, those involved in kink and power-exchange [...]
Educating Our Teens and Tweens About Healthy Sex Educating Our Teens About Healthy Sex Despite there being pockets of our society where attitudes toward sexual and gender identity issues are evolving, the vast majority of our culture remains squeamish about addressing sexual health and pleasure. Most sex education in schools, if it is taught at all, focuses on [...]
How to Pick the Right Sex Therapist How to Pick the Right Sex Therapist? We’re always hearing we could have a better sex life. But, how often do we actually go ‘under the covers’ to better understand our desires and most embarrassing questions? How do you decide who you’re going [...]
Male Sexual Fluidity: The New ‘Kid’ on the Block Male Sexual Fluidity For quite a while we have thought of human sexuality as fitting into just three categories: straight, gay, and bisexual — although in some dictatorial regimes the latter two are said not to exist at all! As a [...]
Joe Kort interviewed by Ferndale Friends! Joe Kort interviewed by Ferndale Friends! Ferndale Friends recently spoke with Dr. Joe Kort – a psychotherapist, coach and author specializing in LGBQT sexual and relationship health. He founded his practice in 1985, and his specialties include gay affirmative psychotherapy (emphasizing how being knowledgeable [...]
Grow Your Guru Interview with Dr. Joe Kort Grow Your Guru Interview with Dr. Joe Kort. Couples need two conversations - the relationship conversation and the sexual conversation. If sexual health improves in a relationship, this doesn't mean the relationship's health improves. Couples need to discuss these topics in tandem. Learn more [...]