Is it Time to Leave? Is it time to leave? The magic has faded and the sparks have fizzled out. Arguments and disagreements are becoming routine. Relationships have rough patches, but how do you know when these difficult times are a signal it is time to call it quits? This poem, [...]
Dating today in the real world – what should you expect? Dating today in the real world In a recent podcast, I interviewed Amber Boone, host of the podcast “30, Flirty and Thriving,” and frequent speaker on the use of social media, particularly dating apps and what dating is like [...]
An advocate in more ways than one An advocate in more ways than one. Stephen Advocate was my high school therapist. He not only helped prevent my suicide, but he also helped me come to terms with being gay. I saw him twice a week and walked one mile each [...]
Do I really want to be in a relationship? Do I really want to be in a relationship? When working with individuals and couples, sometimes clients will ask me, “Do I really want to be in a relationship?” Our culture teaches us from childhood that the norm is to find [...]
Flatten Your Couple Curve Here we are at the beginning of spring and are asked to shelter in place with partners and families 24/7, something we seldom ever do. For some, it will seem like a blessing, a time to celebrate their relationship and become even closer emotionally. For others, it can [...]
Joe Kort featured on WWJ radio in Detroit Joe Kort featured on WWJ radio in Detroit We’re drawn to familiar love, to people who carry positive and negative traits of our primary caretakers, but we don’t realize that initially. We choose a person to finish the unresolved issues from our [...]
Here’s how to kill a relationship in four easy steps Here’s how to kill a relationship in four easy steps “When you forbid a partner from doing something, you invite them to keep a secret.” - Ellyn Bader Most couples feel their relationship will last forever; they love each other [...]
Recovering from Sex Addiction Treatment Recovering from Sex Addiction Treatment So, you have been through so called treatment of “sex addiction” and now you realize not only didn’t it work, it left you feeling worse about your sexual self and your relationship. Regular readers of my books or blogs may know [...]
Happy Holidays: is this a misnomer? Happy Holidays: is this a misnomer? Of course, all therapists understand that our experiences at home growing up shape nearly everything about our future. In the first therapy sessions, I usually ask for information about my client's childhood experiences and the family members involved. [...]
In more than 25 years of practice, I've heard hundreds of stories of how pornography use can damage people's sex lives profoundly and ruin their marriages. I've personally had many couples describe the shame and secretiveness of one partner's involvement with porn. Time and again, I've treated people for whom viewing porn has become a compulsion [...]