Myths About Autistic Relationships Must Be Broken A neurodiverse relationship can, and does, work. I know from firsthand experience; I married a man on the autism spectrum more than 25 years ago. Our relationship comes with challenges, but what relationship doesn’t? In a recent Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast, I [...]
Tolerating Differences is Tough, But You Can Do It Tolerating differences is tough. Can you see the world through someone else’s eyes? Is there a healthy way of tolerating differences? Are you able to remain close to someone when your differences feel so threatening? Differentiation is a process that we, [...]
Kids Watching Porn Is Not The Problem Kids watching porn is not the problem The online world has created limitless opportunities for young people to explore pornography. • Approximately 94 percent of kids have viewed porn by the age of 14. The average age of first exposure is 8 to 11. [...]
Bisexuality, Pansexuality, Asexuality & Sexual Fluidity – Do We Really Understand These Terms? Bisexuality - pansexuality - asexuality and sexual fluidity, do we really understand these terms? Dr. Mimi Hoang, a nationally recognized psychologist, educator, author and activist specializing in LGBTQ+ and Asian Pacific communities, co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles, [...]
Is it Time to Leave? Is it time to leave? The magic has faded and the sparks have fizzled out. Arguments and disagreements are becoming routine. Relationships have rough patches, but how do you know when these difficult times are a signal it is time to call it quits? This poem, [...]
Dating today in the real world – what should you expect? Dating today in the real world In a recent podcast, I interviewed Amber Boone, host of the podcast “30, Flirty and Thriving,” and frequent speaker on the use of social media, particularly dating apps and what dating is like [...]
An advocate in more ways than one An advocate in more ways than one. Stephen Advocate was my high school therapist. He not only helped prevent my suicide, but he also helped me come to terms with being gay. I saw him twice a week and walked one mile each [...]
Do I really want to be in a relationship? Do I really want to be in a relationship? When working with individuals and couples, sometimes clients will ask me, “Do I really want to be in a relationship?” Our culture teaches us from childhood that the norm is to find [...]
Flatten Your Couple Curve Here we are at the beginning of spring and are asked to shelter in place with partners and families 24/7, something we seldom ever do. For some, it will seem like a blessing, a time to celebrate their relationship and become even closer emotionally. For others, it can [...]
Joe Kort featured on WWJ radio in Detroit Joe Kort featured on WWJ radio in Detroit We’re drawn to familiar love, to people who carry positive and negative traits of our primary caretakers, but we don’t realize that initially. We choose a person to finish the unresolved issues from our [...]