Tips for Singles Tips for Singles 1. Set aside your pride. Dating is not for the hypersensitive. Even if this person isn’t interested in you because of how you look or how you are in bed, remember that’s about them and their desires, not about you. Another person may want you because [...]
5 Tips on How to Make a Relationship Last Click here to download the pdf. 1. Understand the stages of love . Every relationship goes through three stages of love including romantic love, the power struggle and real love--respectively. Romantic love is supposed to happen and supposed to end. If you are [...]
Resources for Religious LGBTQIA The following was put together by a colleague of mine John R. Edwards, L.C.S.W. It is very important that all non LGBT therapists and LGBT therapists who are not religious who work with LGBT folks who are struggling with their sexual orientation and religious beliefs understand [...]
Buzzfeed article Dr. Kort is interviewed in: How I Learned There’s More Than One Way To Have Gay Sex Joe Kort, a 52-year-old writer and sex therapist, explained that it’s not just that he rarely engages in penetrative sex. In our phone interview, he told me that he’s never had [...]
Sex Addict or Homosexual? I know of clients telling their therapist, "I would rather be a sex addict than a homosexual." Some sex addiction therapists, especially those who have a religious influence to their work, admittedly believe that homosexuality is not an "authentic" identity, particularly for those who do not [...]
Why I Am No Longer A Sex Addiction Therapist: Treating Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors Treating Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors as Reflected on By Dr. Joe Kort In the 1980s, addiction models were becoming increasingly popular, and the sex addiction model tagged onto that wave. Twelve-step groups on behavioral addictions were forming everywhere. [...]
DEAR JOE I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. There have been the usual ups and downs but I thought things were going well, until I accidentally saw a weird text pop on his phone. I went through it and discovered he has been texting a guy, and it's clear he has [...]
Read Joe’s latest interview on helping couples talk about porn use. There’s no doubt that pornography use is on the rise, and this issue is becoming more common in recent years because of its proliferation on the internet and easy, instant access. Currently, 12% of websites on the Internet are [...]
A Place For Straight Spouses After Their Mate Comes Out Of The Closet : NPR Betty and Jeff Waite and their 20-something sons gather a couple times a month for a meal. On a recent Sunday afternoon, 56-year-old Betty served up a platter of bacon, French toast, orange juice and [...]
DEAR JOE I have been with my boyfriend for the past nine months or so. The beginning was great, we hit if off well and everything looked promising, but in the last few months he's changed and has become really critical of me. He puts me down in front of friends, when I tell him I [...]