Pitfalls of Not Being a Sexually Informed Therapist Sexually informed therapist. Years ago, I read a cartoon that really made me laugh: In the therapist’s office, a woman is lying on the typical Freudian couch, and says to the therapist, “you know, doctor, there are some things I don’t tell [...]
Can Straight Men Love Gay Sex? A Therapist Weighs In. - Lighthouse.LGBT Blog Male sexual fluidity refers to the ability for a straight man to be attracted to gay sex. As Dr. Kort says, “the anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation.” Sexually fluid straight men differ from bisexual men in [...]
"Smart sex-Smart Love" discussion series I'm really proud about what we are creating with the, "Smart sex-Smart Love" discussion series at my psychotherapy offices. Last night we had men and women, straight, bisexual and gay, caucasian and people of color. Next month we are talking about pornography and gender differences/similarities [...]
Does Masturbating Make You a Sex Addict? What About Porn? What About Bondage? Even the Experts Can’t Agree. Others include Joe Kort, a sexologist and former sex-addiction therapist who has defected, and who wrote a blog in late 2015 renouncing the sex-addiction model. “I think it is... very harmful to gay and bisexual [...]
Revised book for therapists - pre-order now I'm excited to announce the pre-order of my revised book for therapists with brand new chapters on sexual fluidity, bisexuality, transgender, and LGBT youth! You can pre-order here for a January 2018 delivery date published by WW Norton http://books.wwnorton.com/books/978-1-324-00048-8/
Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors Sexual abuse disorients you; it does not orient you. Returning to the scene of the sexual crime. A boy who has become traumatized from such an event usually becomes quite adept in adulthood at compartmentalization—so much so that he may even “forget” that [...]
Case Study: Is All Fair in Love and Sex? How Couples Can Embrace their Sexual Differences Originally published in Psychotherapy Networker Magazine Case Study By Joe Kort July/August 2017 Click here to download the article in PDF. Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, [...]
Straight Men Have Sex with Men For the Cash This video is about straight men who have sex with men for money. They report it isn't the man or the gay sex that turns them on rather it is the cash that turns them on. They have eroticized money. They [...]
July/August 2017 Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, would agree that women are in a privileged position in therapy because they can usually access their feelings better and have a fuller command of the language for doing so, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. As a result, [...]
Here's What It Means If You Catch Your Man Watching Gay Porn by Dr. Joe Kort As a sex and couples’ therapist, I have often seen the seismic reaction that occurs in a relationship when a woman discovers that her man has been looking at or searching for gay porn [...]