Infidelity can be traumatic. Recovering a relationship from an instance of cheating may seem like an uphill battle. Often times the natural inclination is to assail the ‘cheater’ with harsh words and to comfort the ‘victim’ with compassion. But if the couple truly wishes to heal the pain and mend their relationship then finding common ground is paramount. Using phrases such as ‘involved party’ and ‘injured party’ are one way to help the couple meet in the middle. Ultimately, however, the best way to recover from infidelity is to never have it happen in the first place. One way to make strides toward this is to openly negotiate the ‘terms’ of your relationship. To define what monogamy and cheating means to each of you, is to set clear boundaries that may help avoid misunderstandings that can lead to infidelity. Communication also acts as a preventative measure when it comes to discussing erotic differences and sexual changes. Staying informed about your partners sexual likes and dislikes can make all the difference when it comes to fostering a loving and trusting long term monogamous relationship.
Dr. Joe Kort is a certified sex addiction therapist, certified Imago Relationship Therapist and a certified Sex Therapist providing mental health outpatient services for individuals and couples as well as those struggling with depression and anxiety issues in the Farmington Hills, Royal Oak, West Bloomfield and Troy areas. The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health – www.CRSH.com – provides this information written by its founder, Dr. Kort, in order to educate interested readers. (248) 399-7447.