Sigmund Freud first identified the psychological process of transference and brought it into what is now modern day psychotherapy. He noticed that people had strong feelings and fantasies about him that had no basis in reality between him and the client. In fact, transference is actually something that happens in life—and not just psychotherapy. Harville Hendrix, [...]

Dust Bunnies in Your Closet Recently, a high school in Troy, Michigan made the news when the Detroit area Lesbian and Gay Community Center created a sign depicting people from all walks of life, with the heading, “Gays and Lesbians are Everyday People.” Some parents wanted it taken down because it “promotes [...]

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a form of relationship therapy innovated by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Dr. Hendrix was author of the two Best Sellers "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples," and "Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide for Singles." It integrates and extends the insights of the major western psychological systems, behavioral [...]

This document is designed to help you get the most benefit from our work together. It deals with how to prepare for and maximize the value of our sessions and summarizes some brief concepts about relationships and productive couple’s therapy. Your job is to create your own individual objectives for being in therapy. Like a good [...]

How - Husbands Out to Their Wives Note: This group is not affiliated with Joe Kort & Associates. The information given on this page is from this group. HOW is an international on-line support group for gay and bisexual men who are married to women and are out to (or working toward [...]

Of all the relationships that we will encounter in our lifetime, our family ties are usually the most intense, tightly organized and consist of the strongest loyalties. We want to stay connected to our families and so we nurture and protect these relationships. There is comfort and a feeling of safety in having a history with [...]

In the talks I give around the country, audiences often ask me about what being gay or straight really is. Most people believe that if you engage in—or even think about—certain homosexual sex acts, then that reveals your basic sexual orientation of being gay. Interestingly, the opposite is not true. If a gay or lesbian person [...]

COMMUNITY VIEWS WHATEVER FORM IT TAKES, INTOLERANCE HURTS JOE KORT SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH NEWS Anti-Semitism. Being Jewish, I knew of the concept growing up but never actually suffered from direct acts of it. I knew epithets like "Jew boy, "kike," and "Jew them down" existed but never had any of these words or phrases directed [...]

Joe Kort offers new workshop to help gay men integrate love, sex and intimacy—he calls it erotic intelligence. >>Click here to register for the workshop “You know how you say you can tell a lot about a person by knowing their friends,” asked popular psychotherapist and author Joe Kort. “Well, if you know a lot about [...]

Can't We All Just Get Along? It’s said that a prophet is without honor in his own country. We gays and lesbians don’t have our own nation, let alone recognized “prophets” in our communities. As a group—leaders, organizations and businesses— we dishonor each other. I hear gays and lesbians say things [...]