In more than 25 years of practice, I've heard hundreds of stories of how pornography use can damage people's sex lives profoundly and ruin their marriages. I've personally had many couples describe the shame and secretiveness of one partner's involvement with porn. Time and again, I've treated people for whom viewing porn has become a compulsion [...]

July/August 2017 Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, would agree that women are in a privileged position in therapy because they can usually access their feelings better and have a fuller command of the language for doing so, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. As a result, [...]

There was a man who had given much thought to what he wanted from life. He had experienced many moods and trials. He had experimented with different ways of living, and he had had his share of both success and failure. At last, he began to see clearly where he wanted to go. Diligently, he searched [...]

By Joe Kort, Ph.D., CST These are trying, scary times for LGBTQ people. We are seeing increasing divisiveness. Every day on Facebook I see people blocking and unfriending each other, and I must admit I have done the same. A lot of this comes from people not hearing each other, attacking each other or not truly [...]

Resources for Religious LGBTQIA The following was put together by a colleague of mine John R. Edwards, L.C.S.W. It is very important that all non LGBT therapists and LGBT therapists who are not religious who work with LGBT folks who are struggling with their sexual orientation and religious beliefs understand [...]

DEAR JOE I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. There have been the usual ups and downs but I thought things were going well, until I accidentally saw a weird text pop on his phone. I went through it and discovered he has been texting a guy, and it's clear he has [...]

DEAR JOE I have been with my boyfriend for the past nine months or so. The beginning was great, we hit if off well and everything looked promising, but in the last few months he's changed and has become really critical of me. He puts me down in front of friends, when I tell him I [...]

Joe Kort, Ph,D, writes for Attitude Magazine in the UK DEAR JOE I've been with my husband for almost a decade now and he's my world. We had a civil partnership two years ago and while I can't imagine my life without him, things have been really stale for a while now. Our lives have pretty [...]

DEAR JOE I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks and he's going through a real tragedy: His mother passed away a couple of weeks ago. He will often just break down and I'm not sure how to respond. We've just met recently and I am afraid of getting too attached in case he isn't [...]

I'm a gay man, but I'm married to a woman and we've had kids together. I suppose I only really admitted to myself that I was gay when it was already too late. Obviously we've built a life together, and I don't want to leave her but I want to be gay too. Is this possible [...]