10 Smart Things

Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love


Would the small gay boy you once were look up to the gay man you have become in your relationships?

This is the question Joe Kort will help you answer in this book based on his widely successful first book, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives.

In that book, Dr. Kort helps gay men develop a healthy, affirming relationship with their gay identity, and in this book he continues the conversation by exploring the topics of love and intimacy. Most people think that you cannot enjoy a satisfying relationship until you first get yourself healthy. Dr. Kort disagrees. Dating and getting into relationships are what help make you healthy. Relationships bring up the unfinished business from your past, both as children and as adults in relationships.

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love explores your relationship to yourself as a man and how that was impacted by the negative messages given to gay children about not being the “right” type of male. You will also discover how your relationship with your mother and father impacts your success in finding love and how, in fact, you are drawn to familiar love. Not knowing this information can lead you to walk away from the relationship of your dreams.

Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? is a smart, contemporary look at a controversial issue. This is the only book I have ever seen that addresses the complexities of men’s sexuality with empathy and a direct language that both men and women will find helpful. Clinicians who work with couples will turn again and again to this book for answers to this contemporary quandary as more and more couples struggle with the boundaries of male sexuality. Kort and Morgan give clear answers and direction and explain how to talk about relationships and betrayal while moving our understanding of sexuality forward into a new era of openness and maturity. Thank you, Joe Kort and Alexander P. Morgan.

Dr. Tammy Nelson

For decades, husbands and wives have faced the social tendency to shame, fear, and denounce husbands who have sex with men. Kort and Morgan’s book offers a compassionate and understanding view that is grounded in science and clinical practice, rather than fear. Their book offers a surprising and pleasing depth to the understanding of this phenomenon and does not treat it in simplistic, black and white ways. Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? offers up a sophisticated view of masculine sexuality and eroticism that is sorely needed. Their work is a gift to the many husbands and wives out there who are struggling to understand the husband’s same-sex attractions and trying to figure out where to go from here.

David J. Ley, Ph.D.

Male sexual fluidity is a cutting-edge, and sometimes confusing, topic. With empathy and insight Kort distills his years of experience helping couples decode and deal with a spectrum of scenarios into a single compelling volume.

Ian Kerner, sexuality counselor