Talks

Getting to the Heart of the Matter with Gay & Lesbian Clients


with Joe Kort, LCSW
Nationally known author, educator, & gay Therapist


“It’s not enough to be gay-friendly. It’s not enough to be gay yourself. You must be gay informed!”......Joe Kort

This 2-day Seminar is based on Joe’s latest book,
Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide

More information, seminar description, & a downloadable registration form are available at
www.grits.cloverpad.org or call 404-316-7692.

 

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Georgia Regional Imago Therapists present...

What: 2-day Seminar on Gay Affirmative Therapy with Joe Kort
When: May 2 & 3, 2008, 9am - 5pm
Where: Country Inn & Suites hotel, I - 75 & Windy Hill Road
Info: www.grits.cloverpad.org or call 404-316-7692

* Gain new understanding of special clinical issues
* Examine attitudes & myths that can get in the way of effective therapy
* Leave with specific interventions & assessment tools that promote gay-affirmative therapy (GAT) with individuals & same sex couples
* 12 CEUs applied for

 


Psychotherapy Networker Symposium East
March 13-16, 2008
Omni Shoreham Hotel
Washington, D.C.

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You must register for the entire symposium to attend the workshop.

Unfree To Be Me: Preventing and Healing the Abuse of Gay Youth
Many therapists ask, “How can you tell if a child or teenager is gay or lesbian?” There is no rule of thumb nor any scientific literature that claims to know for sure. But the gay clients in your office were once gay children and teenager--and they will tell you that for sure. The trauma done to the neglect and abuse of these children is profound. Therapists have an opportunity to help these children and their families to reduce the amount of psychological damage that is done through neglect, bullying and lack of acceptance.

This workshop will focus on how to address children and teenagers who self-identify as gay or lesbian and their families.

Learning Objectives:

1. Identity ways to help gay and lesbian children and teenagers.

2. Address therapist's anxiety around how to ask and address a child/teenager's homosexuality.

3. Learn ways to help parents cope with having a gay child as well as helping the child cope with unaccepting parents.

When Gay Guise Happens to Straight Marriages
When a male spouse in a heterosexual marriage reveals he fantasizes about having sex with men, is caught looking at online gay porn and in gay chat rooms, and possibly is having sex with men, women--and these men--often worry that he is gay and that the marriage needs to end. However, for many of these men this is not about gayness. A variety of reasons exist as to why men seek other men for sex which are not about a gay identity. Some of these men wish to engage in sexual contact with their wives which she will not do. He believes his sexual contact with men is "not cheating". Therapists, being politically correct, often believe the man is in denial about his homosexuality and move him in a direction toward coming out gay when--in fact--he is not.

In this workshop, we'll discuss ways of dealing with the reactivity of the "betrayed" wife, confronting our own and the couple's homophobia, understand the male's interest in sexual contact with men, and helping the couple decide what course is best for them.

1. Understand the psychological meaning of the arousal template of the men who seek sex with men (MSM's) who are not gay or bisexual.

2. Learn to help the couple communicate in non-reactive ways about sexuality and to understand what the behavior means and how it impacts the marriage.

3. Address the fears, anxieties and insecurities of these wives about her husband's sexual interests and how to help her listen effectively to him without it being personalized.


Sexual Shadow: Gay Men and Sexual Desire

A Workshop with Joe Kort

Columbia University, New York City
Wallach Lounge | Corner of Amsterdam and 114th | Map
Free Dinner

March 22, 2007 • 6:00 PM

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Join Joe Kort in a course on "Gay men and their Sexual Shadow Workshop". The workshop will teach the concepts and tools of gay men’s erotic blueprints. Participants will learn how to resolve the mystery of their sexual fantasies and desires and how that contributes to finding the perfect mate.

The workshop is interactive involving all participants. This workshop will use guided imagery, lecture, group participation and experiential exercises and writing, video clips and more.

For more information about attending the workshop contact Kerry John Poynter, M.A. at 212.854.1675 or by eMail.


Psychotherapy Networker Symposium East
March 15-18, 2007
Omni Shoreham Hotel
Washington, D.C.

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You must register for the entire symposium to attend the workshop.

Treatment Issues with Gay & Lesbian Couples
As a straight clinician, it's important to be gay informed, more than just gay-friendly. It's especially important to recognize the differences between the relationship dynamics of gay male and female couples. In this workshop, we'll compare the distinct differences in relationship dynamics and problem areas that arise for gay men and for lesbians: responsible sexual practices and the need for more connectedness among gay male couples and diminished sexual desire and the need for separateness among lesbians are just a few. You'll leave with specific interventions and assessment tools that promote gay-affirmative couples therapy.

The New Mixed Marriage: When Gay Happens to Straight Couples
When one spouse in a heterosexual marriage reveals he or she is gay, profound emotional, ethical, and practical dilemmas arise for both the couple and the therapist. The couple often struggles with feelings of betrayal and shame, along with a sense of being caught in a bind between anguished love and hopelessness. In this situation, therapists are often too quick to recommend divorce. In this workshop, we'll discuss ways of dealing with the reactivity of the "betrayed" spouse, confronting our own and the couple's homophobia, alleviating the gay spouse's guilt, and helping the couple decide what course is best for them. We'll explore the reasons gays and lesbians marry and how to help the couple move forward without blame or defensiveness. We'll also discuss what "coming out" stages are necessary, both for the couple and for each partner, if there's to be a successful "mixed marriage."

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Joe Kort MA, LMSW, ACSW
25600 Woodward Ave, Ste 218 · Royal Oak, MI 48067

Tel: (248) 399-7317 | Email Address: joekort@joekort.com

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Disclaimer: Because each person's situation is unique, I cannot offer advice or suggestions beyond what is available in my books and articles and therefore cannot reply to personal psychological questions. If you wish to schedule an in-person or telephone consultation, please  eMail me or call (248) 399-7317.