Our efforts to achieve happy, healthy, and satisfying lives are often thwarted by clinging to self-defeating behavioral patterns. Try as we might, we keep making the same mistakes; our lives become frustrating, and often we give up working towards change altogether. The only way to move beyond this point of stagnation is to isolate these behaviors and begin the process of consciously moving in the opposite direction. Openly gay therapist Joe Kort brings 16 years of experience working with hundreds of gay men in individual and group settings as well as workshops and retreats to this book, which provides 10 powerful and positive steps gay men can take to achieve a healthier, more rewarding life.

Chapters in this book are...

• Take charge of their own lives
• Affirm themselves by coming out
• Resolve differences with parents and relatives
• "Graduate" from delayed adolescence
• Avoid-or overcome-sexual addiction
• Learn from successful mentors who've been there, done that
• Take advantage of "Therapy workouts"
• Achieve and maintain rewarding relationships
• Understand the stages of love
• Commit to their partner

These solid reliable "Top 10" life steps that have been most helpful to Joe Kort's clients are presented in an engaging and easy-to-understand manner and are supplemented by case histories from his practice. These are time-tested, practical decisions gay men can make in their search for emotional, sexual, and personal fulfillment.

About the Author
Joe Kort, MA, MSW, ACSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice in Royal Oak, Michigan. In addition, he is certified as an Imago therapist and leads the "Getting the Love You Want" Couples' Weekend which helps couples communicate more effectively. He is a member of the National Association of Social Workers, the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy, and the National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity. His Writings on gay and lesbian issues have appeared in Between the Lines newspaper and the Detroit Free Press.