On my first date with Mike — we’ve been partners now for 24 years – he asked me “Are we on a date?” And the second date, he asked “Are we still dating?
I thought it was so sweet and endearing then. It took me nearly 17 years to realize having to ask someone to know exactly what was going on is typical of someone with Asperger’s syndrome (AS). The syndrome wasn’t even a diagnosis back then. Today it is considered a high-functioning form of autism. It presents in myriad ways, including obsession with details; social awkwardness; a seeming inability to recognize the feelings or reactions of others; and a flat, outward expression with few physical cues as to what the AS person is feeling.