Back in January, hip-hop artist Kanye West found himself embroiled in a Twitter feud with rapper Whiz Khalifa. Soon, model and ex-girlfriend Amber Rose got in on the action. “Awww @kanyewest are u mad I’m not around to play in ur a-shole anymore? #FingersInTheBootyA-sBitch,” tweeted Rose.
When West eventually responded, he denied ever having engaged in anal play of any sort, writing, “I stay away from that area all together [sic].” He then added, “I’m not into that kind of s–t…”
Sadly, this knee-jerk defensiveness is common among heterosexual men who are intrigued by—or who enjoy—anal play. As sex researcher, writer, and educator Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D. wrote for the Daily News after the Kanye West-related tweet storm, “If Kanye West likes anal play, I feel sorry for him not being able to admit it.” Unfortunately, many men feel ashamed to admit to such desires, a dilemma that’s not helped by the type of sex-negative shaming tactics others, such as Rose, sometimes use.