"Is my husband gay?" is a question women ask me on a regular basis. This question comes from having either found gay porn on the computer or discovered that he has hooked up with other men.
You would think that the answer is as simple as most people believe, which is that if a man has sex with another man, then he is gay or bisexual, period.
I'm writing a series of blog posts to challenge this notion that simply because a man has sexual contact with another man, he must be gay or bi. This is the first post in the series.
When I try to have meaningful conversations with people about this issue and say that the answer is not so simple, many people don't accept any other possibility. Just because a man has sexual interest in, or engages in sexual activity with, another man doesn't automatically mean he is gay or bisexual.
I wish I could answer this question with one clear answer. I have joked that I would be a wealthy man if I could. But I can't, and this is no laughing matter. In fact, around the world it's a growing concern for women who accidentally come across evidence that their male partner is engaging in sexual fantasy about and/or behavior with other men.
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