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Mixed Orientation Marriages

  • Gay spouse, straight spouse

    When a partner comes out of the closet, it can be just as traumatic for the one who gets the news . . .



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  • Mixed Orientation Marriages by Joe Kort, MSW copyright, 2005 • Originally published in the Psychotherapy Networker Magazine September 2005

    Joe was quoted in the New York Times  on Mixed Orientation Marriages'These men genuinely love their wives,' said Joe Kort, a clinical social worker who has counseled hundreds of gay married men, including a minority who stay in their marriages. 'They fall in love with their wives, they have children, they're on a chemical, romantic high. Then after about seven years, the high falls away and their gay identity starts emerging.' "[x] [x] Katy Butler, "Many Couples Must Negotiate Terms of 'Brokeback' Marriages," The New York Times, March 7, 2006.



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  • HOW - Husbands Out to Their Wives HOW is an international on-line support group for gay and bisexual men who are married to women and are out to (or working toward coming out to) our wives.

    Note:  This group is not affiliated with Joe Kort & Associates. The information given on this page is from this group. 

    HOW is an international on-line support group for gay and bisexual men who are married to women and are out to (or working toward coming out to) our wives.  Our mission is to support each other as we try to find our individual paths to happiness. HOW members help each other as we redefine our relationships with our spouses, family members, friends, colleagues, even as we may be learning to understand our own real selves.



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  • I've built a life with a woman but I'm gay. What should I do?

    I'm a gay man, but I'm married to a woman and we've had kids together. I suppose I only really admitted to myself that I was gay when it was already too late. Obviously we've built a life together, and I don't want to leave her but I want to be gay too. Is this possible or am I being selfish to even consider it? I only want what's best for everyone, but feel I need to be true to myself. 



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